Blessing Unaware

Ana McDonald, St. Francis by the Lake, Canyon Lake TX

Walking around the block, I pass my long-time neighbor, a kind, cheerful, musical man. How’re ya doing? I call.

Oooh, fat and not too sassy. His music today is resigned, a bit mournful.

I share the first and hope you’re sassy again soon, I call—I bless—as I walk on.


Perhaps you, as I once did, think of blessing as something the priest does. Maybe something you can do, so long as you include God or Jesus among your words. Or maybe you recite my favorite prayer from Numbers 6: “May the Lord bless you and keep you,…” acknowledging that it is, ultimately, God from whom all blessings come. This is true. All blessings do come from God. But we are God’s instruments, not just in our actions as lay chaplains, but also in the random words we throw into the void.

We bless someone every day. For blessing is “a gift from God, that which gives temporal or spiritual benefit.”* It has meant this since the mid-14th century. Unaware, we scatter blessings—good feelings—wherever we go.

Have a nice day. 

Feel better. 

Safe travels. 

These are blessings. So are random comments that brighten another’s day. 

I like your hair. 

I hadn’t thought of that. 

Thank you so much! 

Even something so simple as a child’s bedtime rhyme is a blessing.

Night Night, sleep tight,
Don’t let the bedbugs bite
But if they do, hit ‘em with a shoe
And say I don’t wanna sleep with you!

Blessings are everywhere around us, endowed by the power of God to make someone’s life a little bit better. In expressing appreciation or hope, in sharing the joy or pain of others, in momentary connections and kindly rituals, we bless those around us. So too, we receive blessings unaware. It needn’t be a big thing, nor even a conscious thing. Like the air we breathe, God is all around us, within us, and we are blessing as we are blessed. 

And so, my friends, I hope that you are feeling sassy. If not now, then soon. 

Amen.


 EtymOnline. Blessing.”

Reflections on the Rule - August 2025


The Parable of the Sower

Dr. Brandon Beck

Lay Chaplain, COHI

Monk, The OOOW

Church of reconciliation, san antonio, TX

Theology Student, Brite Divinity School

The Gospel reading in the Revised Common Lectionary for Proper 13 in Year C of the three year lectionary cycle comes from Luke 12. The passage from Luke 12 read and studied shares the words of Jesus teaching the crowd through what we’ve come to call “The Parable of the Sower.”

Now, Jesus shares this parable in response to a man in the crowd asking him to tell the man’s brother to divide the inheritance between them.

Rev. Reagan Gonzalez, at Church of Reconciliation in San Antonio, TX, shares her insights on this passage in her homily:

This isn’t so much a condemnation of having but of wanting more. Of discontent, of wanting something for the sake of wanting it. The parable doesn’t condemn the man for having barns or for storing food but for wanting more simply for the sake of more. Above all, this man is condemned not for his material possessions alone, nor for desiring to have a good time with friends. Even Jesus indulged in eating, drinking, and merry making all the time. It is his exclusive use of the word “I” and “my” that I believe condemns the man. What should “I” do with all “my” crops? the man asks. “I” will do this. “I” will build larger barns, and “I” will save my soul. The man thinks he can save himself. He thinks he is in charge of his own security, prosperity, and contentment. God asks the man to whom his things will belong after he is gone. He can collect and collect and collect, but one day he will be gone. And what then will his things be worth to him? The man has forgotten to whom he belongs. To whom he owes thanks for all that he has been given.

I wonder if you can put yourself in a place of imagining the world of Italy in the 7th Century? Sitting with a group of 12 others over bowls of soup and hard bread listening to this Parable and some similar interpretation. Silently nodding your head as you eat your meal and think how true it is that this communal life of asceticism to which you’ve vowed your life fulfills the call you’re hearing to have but not want “more simply for the sake of more.” Pausing to thank God for your companions as you realize that you’ve never thought you could journey alone and have always relied on this faith family, this monastic brotherhood in which you live. And, then, you all stop as you hear a knock on the door.

The Rule of Benedict Chapter 53, On the Reception of Guests, teaches:

 

Let all guests who arrive be received like Christ, 
for He is going to say, 
"I came as a guest, and you received Me" (Matt. 25:35).
And to all let due honor be shown,
especially to the domestics of the faith and to pilgrims. (Paragraph 1)

Let the Abbot give the guests water for their hands;
and let both Abbot and community wash the feet of all guests.
After the washing of the feet let them say this verse:
"We have received Your mercy, O God,
in the midst of Your temple" (Ps. 47[48]:10). (Paragraph 4b)

That’s how I’ve felt this week. The knock on the door was metaphorical, though. In a regional call with other Center Leaders, we read Chapter 53 on Monday, August 4, as assigned by Sister Chittister in her version of the Rule and Commentary. Hearing this chapter while still contemplating Rev. Reagan’s sermon on The Parable of the Sower was my “knock on the door” bringing Benedictine Hospitality into focus in the context of having, not wanting more, and belonging to God while remembering that we are in community in Community of Hope.

No matter who I am called to bring pastoral care to, I answer the call anticipating an encounter with Christ, and I go knowing the full Community of Hope is with me; “I” cannot do anything alone when I am serving the one to whom I belong and to whom I owe all thanks. And I am confident and content with what I have - in skill as well as material - to do the job to which I am called - because God aligns all things for God’s good - just as The Parable of the Sower and On the Reception of Guests aligned this week.

Amen.

Community of Hope International Receives Grant from Trinity Church

August 5, 2025 — Community of Hope International (COHI) is grateful to share some good news: We have received a generous grant from Trinity Church, an Episcopal parish in New York City. This funding will enhance our ability to train lay leaders in faith-anchored skills for pastoral care, ministry sustainability, and community outreach.

This grant is part of Trinity Church’s Spring 2025 Community Grants, a $16.3 million initiative supporting organizations that help people feel seen, safe, and supported. COHI is honored to be part of this caring community of changemakers.

“The decline in ordained clergy, compounded by leader burnout and shifting ministry dynamics, has increased the need for skilled lay leaders to provide pastoral care and spiritual support,” said Sarah Roberts, Board President of Community of Hope International. “This support from Trinity Church allows us to fill this gap by equipping lay leaders with a spiritually grounded framework for leadership to meet pastoral care needs in diverse contexts.”

With this funding, COHI will launch a new effort called Embracing Change: Rooted & Resilient. It’s a way of helping the Church grow strong by preparing lay leaders (those who aren’t ordained but feel called to care) to walk alongside others through life’s joys and struggles. This is especially important now, as fewer clergy are available and many communities are in need of support.

With Trinity’s support, Embracing Change: Rooted & Resilient will focus on three core strategies between 2025 and 2028:

  • Staff and Consultant Engagement: Expand organizational capacity by strengthening partnerships, diversifying revenue, and improving program engagement.

  • Curriculum and Digital Development: Create accessible training resources - including videos, digital guides, and multilingual content - with new modules addressing areas like addiction, divorce, LGBTQIA+ inclusion, and cultural competency.

  • Infrastructure and Governance Strengthening: Deepen board expertise, improve governance practices, and develop regional support networks to ensure sustainable growth.

By 2028, we hope to welcome 100 new centers into our network, train 1,200 more caregivers, and reach thousands of neighbors across the country with encouragement, grace, and hope.

This is all part of COHI’s long-standing mission: Creating communities steeped in Benedictine spirituality, to serve others through compassionate listening.

To read more about Trinity Church’s 2025 grants, visit: https://trinitychurchnyc.org/stories-news/trinity-church-awards-163-million-community-grants-spring-2025-distribution

To learn more about Community of Hope International, visit: cohi.org


About Community of Hope International
Community of Hope International creates communities rooted in Benedictine spirituality, training lay leaders to serve through compassionate listening and presence. Guided by a vision of being a listening presence in the world, COHI helps individuals embody spiritual care in everyday life.

About Trinity Church
Trinity Church is an Episcopal parish in New York City, founded in 1697. Dedicated to justice, mercy, and belonging, Trinity supports worship, education, and philanthropic partnerships with organizations serving people most in need, both locally and globally.

Reflections on the Rule - April 2025


Beginning Again

Dr. Brandon Beck

Lay Chaplain, COHI

Monk, The OOOW

Church of reconciliation, san antonio, TX

Theology Student, Brite Divinity School

Many of us are familiar with the phrase attributed to St. Benedict, “Always we begin again.” Three times a year we “begin again” reading The Rule of St. Benedict as we come to the end of the 73 short chapters, each with a lesson meant to direct Benedict’s monks’ lives. Every Circle of Care meeting is a chance to “begin again.”  Each pastoral care encounter in which we engage is an opportunity for us to “begin again” in “listening with the ear of our heart.”

At the Church of Reconciliation in San Antonio, TX, in the Diocese of West Texas, we are reviving our Community of Hope center after a hiatus; we are about to “begin again.”

On our first day of training, we will read Chapter 69 which is called “The Presumption of Defending Another in a Monastery.” The chapter talks about conflicts in groups, when you break it down. While that might sound harsh, we are all aware of how “taking sides” in a confrontation often divides an entire group. And, as we form a new group, being prepared for potential conflict seems a great way to “begin again.”  Perhaps Benedict’s advice is not a bad idea for a group as it begins its new community.

In Sr Judith Sutera’s commentary, she closes each chapter with a series of questions like those on page 289 of her Inclusive Translation and Daily Commentary (2021, Liturgical Press). Reflecting on the Rule using Sr. Sutera’s guide is a great way to “begin again” with a new Benedictine tradition in the frame of a renewed Community of Hope at Reconciliation.

As we ponder the questions Sr. Sutera asks:

  • How defensive am I regarding my own social/religious/political narrative?

  • Is there anyone about whom I am overprotective, trying to fight their battles for them?

  • Have ties of blood ever complicated my own situation, and was it handled satisfactorily?

Four days after reading about conflict, we will “begin again” after reading Chapter 73 called “This Rule Only a Beginning of Perfection.” The next day we read the Prologue at the start of the book which begins, “Listen carefully, my child, to the instructions of your master, and incline the ear of your heart.” We reread all the Rule and have an opportunity to do better at listening to each other, to new care receivers, to our priest as she guides our service, and to God’s call to us to serve as lay chaplains–always reflecting on our own daily lives in order to remember how to Love God, Love Others, and Love Ourselves.

Reflections on the Rule - November 2024


What Day is It?

Dr. Brandon Beck

Lay Chaplain, COHI

Monk, The OOOW

Theology Student, Brite Divinity School

This is the day that the LORD has made;
let us rejoice and be glad in it.
— Psalm 118:24 (NRSVUE)

Every day is important and for the Lord in the Benedictine tradition, and so must it be for those of us who have accepted the call to COHI lay chaplaincy. We are called to be present, holding space for everyone to do their jobs and for God to intercede whenever and wherever God needs; God is at work everywhere all the time.

As I’m writing, the day is Sunday; the date is November 17, 2024. I’m sitting in the family minister’s office at Church of the Reconciliation (CoR) in San Antonio, TX, awaiting breakfast before formation hour and service.

Our reading in RSB is about the proper amount of food, and here at CoR we are sharing a month-long theme studying food insecurity in combination with a campaign of service and generosity to provide food for those in need in our neighborhood. The breakfast we serve on Sundays before formation and service is a hot meal open to all, and unsheltered folx from the community enjoy dining with us. We have a little food pantry attached to our little free library that we are stocking regularly; the pantry guild is a new addition to the teams of service for CoR.

As a COHI lay chaplain, learning about food insecurity and sharing in these meals and campaigns of service and generosity require that I prepare my heart and mind before I enter the workspace and after I leave the workspace. I have my own weaknesses, burdens, and sorrows, and I have to attend to them with God and my spiritual director and therapist, in my heart (cell?) so that I can be fully present to hold space for God to show up.

Chittister tells us that “Benedict of Nursia never takes food away from the community…Everybody needs something in life to make the rest of life doable and uplifting.” (p. 184-185) As we provide for ourselves in our homes (monasteries?), let us also remember to share what we have so that all may rejoice and be glad in it.

Reflections on the Rule - October 2024


Recovering Humility

Dr. Brandon Beck

Lay Chaplain, COHI

Monk, The OOOW

Theology Student, Brite Divinity School

I love October. It’s one of those three times a year we are privileged to read the Humility Ladder together. As a person in recovery, the Humility Ladder is a source of great joy, as Recoverers who practice the 12-Steps can relate their 12 Steps of Recovery to the Humility Ladder with great ease.

“Now the ladder erected is our life on earth, and if we humble our hearts God will raise it to heaven. We may call our body and soul the sides of this ladder, into which our divine vocation has fitted the various steps of humility and discipline as we ascend.”

Benedict’s description of the ladder we must set up for ourselves, akin to Jacob’s vision (Gen 28:12), has been oft represented in art and stories. I’ve written to you before of John Edward Crean Jr.’s Benedictine devotional Recovering Benedict in which he reflects on his journey with RSB in conjunction with 12-Step Recovery. His stories and prayers related to the Humility Ladder rival any artwork you might find in emotion and call to compassionate reflection.

As I’ve read Crean again this month, I’ve been renewed and reminded of the amazing work God does every day in providing me with miraculous reminders of why I stay on the ladder and keep climbing.

From Crean’s reflections:

September 26: “Help me remember who I am supposed to be and who you intended me to become.”

September 27: “God is much more focused on my efforts rather than on my successes.”

September 28: “I will trust you, Lord, to provide me with even a few extra moments to consider whether choosing this or that activity will help or hinder me.”

September 29: “You are all Love, Lord.”

September 30: “Cheap thrills don’t last and offer no solutions.”

October 1: “This third step up the ladder of humility requires an open heart.”

October 2: “May the fire of your Holy Spirit prevail over the heat of my own unruly passions.”

October 3: “I cannot reap the full benefits without my humility reaching for that fifth rung, where I conceal none of the evil thoughts that enter my heart.”

October 4: “Lord, please let me just say thanks that I have a job, and then just do whatever I am assigned.”

October 5: “Don’t let me buy into the fantasy that I am large and in charge.”

October 6: “Thank you, Lord, for this one sentence reminding me that humility requires me to adopt, not adapt, twelve-step principles.”

October 7: “Please help me to speak less and listen more.”

October 8: “Lord, please help me to reflect rather than react.”

October 9: “Lord, please make me into a quieter, kinder, gentler, less loquacious person.”

October 10: “Lord, help me to wear humility without being proud of it. Help me to trust you in all things. Help me to be so deeply wedded to your Perfect Love that I may transcend fear and transmit Love. Lord, grant me the gift of humility and the grace to make it my way of life.”

You don’t have to be in recovery to be in recovery and not everyone in recovery does it the 12-step way. Still, Everybody hurts sometimes. We are a Community of Hope steeped in Benedictine spirituality ready to listen compassionately, right?